How Do I Get Rid of My Husband’s Second Wife? Q&A

S%C3%A9pulcre_Arc-en-Barrois_111008_12Every day, women come here looking for the answer to the question: “How do I get rid of my husband’s second wife”. My stats show me that this is one of the most common search-phrases people use to find this blog.

How do I get rid of my husband’s second wife?

Well, there’s really only one answer to that question:

By getting rid of your husband.

As a muslim, you can’t force your husband to divorce his other wife or wives. There is no legal way for you to make that happen, nor any religious way. You might try to coerce him into divorcing her, by making his life a living hell if he doesn’t, but since Islam always has a mechanism for protecting the right of men, of course there are ahadith and fatwas saying that it is a great sin to try and make your husband divorce his other wife/wives. So if you really are a muslim, that is not a way out.

There are women out there who try to make their husbands divorce the second wives by being the perfect wives. Women degrade themselves and beautify themselves, keep a perfect house, offer their husbands lots of exciting sex in order to make their husbands see that they don’t need any other woman. Well ladies, this is the most stupid thing you can do!! It simply proves to your husbands that polygyny is great, and that by being polygynous they can keep their wives on their toes, serving them and competing for their favour. Please, please don’t stoop to that!! It will only make your husbands go out and tell other men how great polygyny is, setting other poor women up to become victims too.

You could of course murder your husband’s second wife, but only if you’re ready to go to prison for life, or possibly be executed depending on where you live. 😉

No, honestly, the only way to get rid of his second wife is by getting rid of him. I know it’s not as easy as it sounds. But there it is. If you get rid of him, she won’t ever be a part of your life again unless you want her to. She will become completely irrelevant. When he decides to marry a third wife, she will be the one to take the pain – it will have nothing to do with you. And as you get rid of him, you won’t only get rid of his second wife. You’ll also get rid of a dirty two-timing piece of shit who cares more about his dick than about your life and your marriage and your children. You’ll also get rid of the risk of getting STD:s from his other women, and you’ll get rid of spending half of the rest of your life alone as a single parent, a single woman, a woman alone in a home for the elderly.

Asking for divorce also happens to be an islamically permissible way to free yourself from  him and eternal pain and misery. (You do know of course, that if you don’t divorce him, you’ll have to share him with her for all eternity. even if you get into Paradise as a true muslim…?)

By getting rid of him, and her, you’ll open a door for love, for respect and honesty from a full time husband, a full time father.

So for goodness sake, get rid of your husband’s second wife. And now you know how.

It’s not about Equality! It’s about Stupidity! And Total Lack of Basic Human Decency!

darwinWe often hear muslims and islamists defend the misogyny of islam. They say islam is not about equality, it’s about equity, about justice.

Husbands have rights over their wives and wives have rights over their husbands. That’s all fair isn’t it? But men have a degree over the women. Is that fair?

Well, the islamist brainwashed and warped misogynist will disregard all modern science and claim that this is because men have abilities that women don’t have. The rest of us know of course that men can carry heavier logs, that is true. So can gorillas.

Women however have a higher general IQ, are less violent and inclined to criminality, showing a higher degree of morals, and have much better grades in school and achieve a lot more than men academically. In fact, 67% or all people with a master or higher are women. So what is this ability men are talking about that should give them a degree over women? Obviously the ability to carry a heavier log. So gorillas must have a degree over men.

In society, in the workplace, positions and status are based on achievements. Fine. I think we can all agree that this is fair. This is also why more and more women are becoming CEO:s, when we get rid of misogynist laws and traditions. Men however claim position and status simply based on the fact that they have a penis. An organ which as far as I know is endowed neither with intelligence, erudition nor morals.

89% of all people serving time in prison are men.

99% of all rapists are men.

99% of all wars have been started by men.

98% of all pedophiles are men.

98 % of all people convicted for incest are men.

82% of all alcoholics are men.

Are these the qualities they base superiority on? Maybe they are trying to use before mentioned organ for thinking after all.

No, I suppose we’re back to the “able to carry a heavier log”-argument.

When it comes to the view on gender, equality and justice it is true, islam is not about equality, nor is it about equity. It’s about stupidity.

(Is it a surprise to you that the guy who inspired this post is unmarried? 😉 )

Can’t you See that Men Must Protect Women? Q&A

Source:Wikimedia Commons

Source:Wikimedia Commons

Question: Can’t you see that men by virtue of their strength and leaderships qualities must be heads of the family? Can’t you see that women by vritue of weakness and love must tend for their families and raise their children? Can’t you see that since men are stronger and more efficient they must protect women? And in return women should respect and obey their husbands? Can’t you see that this is the good order of things? And can’t you see that since men are more hot in their desires and able to protect and care for more that one woman it is natural that men should be allowed several wives while a woman is cooler in nature and loves only one man and then should be allowed only one man? Can’t you see that?

Answer: No.

Why Polygamy? “He Thinks About Other Women”

Johnny_Depp_1I found a ludicrous article called something like 7 things your muslim husband won’t tell you. It really is full of the worst garbage. For example the writer claims:

He Thinks About Other Women

Okay, first of all, calm down. Don’t unsubscribe from my mailing list just yet. Let me explain this.

All men think about other women.

It doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat on you.

It doesn’t mean he’s thinking about taking a second wife.

It doesn’t mean he’s fantasizing about another woman.

It just means that all (straight) men do, at some point in their lives, consider having another woman (i.e. wife).

You’re better off coming to terms with this and accepting it than having false, purile notions about men.

The best way to combat these thoughts are to apply the advice given in the first three secrets:

  • Respect him.
  • Be loyal to him.
  • Give him physical love when he wants it.

Does this mean he’ll never take a second wife if you do these three things? Of course not.

But it will raise your value in his mind relative to other woman and he’ll be all the more reluctant to look for those three things (respect, loyalty, and sex) elsewhere.

Let me tell you:

She Thinks About Other Men

This is something men refuse to grasp, they simply can’t and won’t accept it. Women are turned on by other men than their husbands. Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, the cute guy at the bank – you name it! We eat them with our eyes and feast on them in our imaginations.

It doesn’t mean she’s going to cheat on you, but it might. Especially if you go off hallucinating about living a happy life in polygyny.

It doesn’t mean she’s thinking about taking a second husband, but realize it – nowadays she might.

It does mean she’s fantasizing about another man. Most of the time it’s just a harmless bit of fun. Like thinking about lasagna.

It just means that all (straight) women do, at some point in their lives, consider having another man (i.e. husband). They might consider replacing the one they have, having one or two lovers on the side, or getting a second husband.

You’re better off coming to terms with this and accepting it than having false, puerile notions about women.

The best way to combat these thoughts are to apply the advice given in the first secrets:

  • Respect her.
  • Be loyal to her.
  • Give her physical love when she wants it, and make sure it’s about her pleasure too, not only yours.
  • Appreciate her
  • Never ever pretend that you have rights that she doesn’t, that she has obligations that you don’t. Take out the trash, do the laundry, do the dishes, help the kids with homework, water the plants and fix dinner before you fix her!

Does this mean she’ll never take a lover or a second husband if you do these things? Of course not.

But it will raise your value in her mind relative to other men and she’ll be all the more reluctant to look for those things (respect, loyalty, equality, love and sex) elsewhere.

Not that difficult, is it?

For Man was Created Weak

After mating, the redundant male is eaten by the female

After mating, the redundant male is eaten by the female

Finally silence.

Since I came home, words have been filling my space, words of anger, remorse, love, sadness, hope…

We have been trying to reach each other, to let our feelings form a brittle web to bind us together again when expressed using careful, deliberate and fragile sentences.

I am filled with new strength. I know now which lighthouse to aim for in the dark, which way to avoid the shallow grounds, and am better prepared to deal with the hidden ones. My husband on the other hand is suffering the horrible calm after a storm, with no breeze to lighten the damp tranquility, no wind to help set sail and find direction. He is in a state of penitence, holding wretched stalks of disappointment. He is grateful now for my strength, holding on to it for his life. His puerile dream has died, a horrid drawn out death, and now he is left trying to cope with the fact that none of the visions he had, none of the promises of new love, new fulfillment,, new erotic adventures with him at the helm will be his reality.

We think each one will heave to and unload
All good into our lives, all we are owed
For waiting so devoutly and so long.
But we are wrong:

Only one ship is seeking us, a black-
Sailed unfamiliar, towing at her back
A huge and birdless silence. In her wake
No waters breed or break.

It is indeed wondrous how much pain and suffering men are willing to cause in order to chase pubertal visions. An Nisa is a text full of horrid prejudice, falsehoods and evil intent, but one thing is absolutely true: Man was created weak.

Women are created strong, and we get stronger while the men break.

Marry Men of your Choice, Two or Three or Four or Five

My best friend and her husband have come to spend the day, help out with the barn, cook something nice.. Graham and her husband are out in the toolshed, me and Mel are fixing coffee. I have been telling her all about my husband and his #2’s visa problems. It’s so nice to be able to laugh about it, to talk it through with someone I trust completely, someone who is also able to come up with even more vicious jokes about Bimbo than I am.. 😉

Mel has known my husband almost as long as I have. She loves him dearly. She also loves Graham, and considers me fortunate to have found a man like him. She never had any problems with me becoming polyandrous, she just wanted me to be happy.

We both agree, women are more suited to be polygamous than men are. Men can’t organize, men are weak and feeble, they surrender their wits to their desires without thought, they are really in bad need of a maintainer and guardian. Biologically also, a woman can satisfy the needs of at least 4 men every night, while men will find it completely impossible to keep that up..! 🙂

And we are all aware, in situations like these, everybody knows the best thing would be for her to marry both of them, so they can live happily ever after..

I sent a text to my husband, telling him how much I love him. Now, we’ll take the coffee out to the barn and join Mel’s husband and Graham.