How Do I Get Rid of My Husband’s Second Wife? Q&A

S%C3%A9pulcre_Arc-en-Barrois_111008_12Every day, women come here looking for the answer to the question: “How do I get rid of my husband’s second wife”. My stats show me that this is one of the most common search-phrases people use to find this blog.

How do I get rid of my husband’s second wife?

Well, there’s really only one answer to that question:

By getting rid of your husband.

As a muslim, you can’t force your husband to divorce his other wife or wives. There is no legal way for you to make that happen, nor any religious way. You might try to coerce him into divorcing her, by making his life a living hell if he doesn’t, but since Islam always has a mechanism for protecting the right of men, of course there are ahadith and fatwas saying that it is a great sin to try and make your husband divorce his other wife/wives. So if you really are a muslim, that is not a way out.

There are women out there who try to make their husbands divorce the second wives by being the perfect wives. Women degrade themselves and beautify themselves, keep a perfect house, offer their husbands lots of exciting sex in order to make their husbands see that they don’t need any other woman. Well ladies, this is the most stupid thing you can do!! It simply proves to your husbands that polygyny is great, and that by being polygynous they can keep their wives on their toes, serving them and competing for their favour. Please, please don’t stoop to that!! It will only make your husbands go out and tell other men how great polygyny is, setting other poor women up to become victims too.

You could of course murder your husband’s second wife, but only if you’re ready to go to prison for life, or possibly be executed depending on where you live. 😉

No, honestly, the only way to get rid of his second wife is by getting rid of him. I know it’s not as easy as it sounds. But there it is. If you get rid of him, she won’t ever be a part of your life again unless you want her to. She will become completely irrelevant. When he decides to marry a third wife, she will be the one to take the pain – it will have nothing to do with you. And as you get rid of him, you won’t only get rid of his second wife. You’ll also get rid of a dirty two-timing piece of shit who cares more about his dick than about your life and your marriage and your children. You’ll also get rid of the risk of getting STD:s from his other women, and you’ll get rid of spending half of the rest of your life alone as a single parent, a single woman, a woman alone in a home for the elderly.

Asking for divorce also happens to be an islamically permissible way to free yourself from  him and eternal pain and misery. (You do know of course, that if you don’t divorce him, you’ll have to share him with her for all eternity. even if you get into Paradise as a true muslim…?)

By getting rid of him, and her, you’ll open a door for love, for respect and honesty from a full time husband, a full time father.

So for goodness sake, get rid of your husband’s second wife. And now you know how.

319 thoughts on “How Do I Get Rid of My Husband’s Second Wife? Q&A

  1. Fiona

    Hmmm, maybe.

    When i say pathed the way. You got to ask why isis end up with American tanks ect i suppose they accidentally, on purpose levae behind everything ones needs to start a war. And if thats not enough we’ll keep buy oil from you and launder the money through saudi in case we get caught cuz muslims funding muslims is ok, just incase you need more bombs, dont worry we’ll get the russians to send them over……by accident of course.

    My outrageous suggestion is for the all armies to take all weapons and dispose of them. Every gun, bomb, granade ect. Make it illegal to make weapons. The only reason they could have been invented is to kill people. Then if someone wants to fight or has an issue they’ll have to gather on a field somewhere and beat each other with sticks. At least that way only the people who want to fight will get hurt, they can leave the civilians out of it. Of course this will never happen and theyd always be a few jackass’s to start it again anyway.

    This conversation is more depressing than my polygamous husband.

  2. When you’re talking about global events, I see really skewered reactions from the west (my vantage point since I’m in the USA). For example, the Paris attack, and then Nice. Everyone here went crazy. But when mosques and schools are bombed in Pakistan killing many times more innocents, no one bats an eye, and the news doesn’t provide live coverage for days on end. As if the innocent lives lost in Paris and Nice are somehow of more value.

    When the Indian army (predominantly Hindu, so no, they don’t get a pass either) slaughtered over 100,000 people over the last 25 years in Kashmir, barely anyone here knew about it. I sure didn’t, until I was with my ex. I read up on it and was appalled that this went on unfettered for so long, and still does. I was there in 2010 when the streets ran red with the blood of dozens and dozens of mostly kids murdered by paramilitary and army forces. Back in the US, it was barely a blip on the news.

    The media controls the messages, and tells us how to react to them.

  3. ///My outrageous suggestion is for the all armies to take all weapons and dispose of them. Every gun, bomb, granade ect. Make it illegal to make weapons. The only reason they could have been invented is to kill people. Then if someone wants to fight or has an issue they’ll have to gather on a field somewhere and beat each other with sticks. At least that way only the people who want to fight will get hurt, they can leave the civilians out of it. .///

    If only. Problem is, that genie ain’t never going back into the bottle. If we, as they say, “bomb each other back to the stone age,” then maybe, but the knowledge of how to create all forms of weapons of mass destruction has been attained, and the US led the way into the ultimate abyss with the Manhattan Project.

  4. I just had an interesting talk with my first husband, that is relevant to what you said here earlier. I’ll write about it tomorrow – Tamsin is having mightmares 😦

  5. When you’re talking about global events, I see really skewered reactions from the west (my vantage point since I’m in the USA). For example, the Paris attack, and then Nice. Everyone here went crazy. But when mosques and schools are bombed in Pakistan killing many times more innocents, no one bats an eye, and the news doesn’t provide live coverage for days on end. As if the innocent lives lost in Paris and Nice are somehow of more value.

    Yep, this is what iv observed too. Same thing with the buddist monks in burma. Theres been so many hate crimes in uk against BRITISH muslims, the polish and romanians since the brexit. Where many ignorant people thought voting out means “send them back” little did they know its changes nothing about asylum seekers or those born in Britain or anything else while they negotiate for the next 2 years, where ill bet theres some issue for why we have to stay. Im beginning to think the whole thing was to see how well the media machine is working.

    Fiona
    Awww I hope shes ok. I usually put them in my bed when they’ve had a nightmare. Although you make a rod for your own back with that one.

  6. Dale

    //Great idea Sots. We should all go back to where we came from. Practically speaking, that should probably be the African continent, since the Fertile Crescent won’t hold us all.//

    I get it now. Sometimes it find it difficult to understand your comments.

  7. Sots,
    I believe major reason for different responses to same type of events isn’t media bias or any conspiracy. Its just basic human nature. You grieve more when something happens in your own family, community or country or where you feel you could have been one of the victims. Obviously western people get shaken more when a western country is attacked. Some incident happening in an area without any ongoing terrorism or conflict is obviously more shocking than when it happens in a terrorism or conflict prone area.
    Take example of rape cases in India. Brutal rapes happen everyday and get published on small sections of newspapers. Some cases like he rape in a moving bus in Delhi get so much attention that youngsters from all over the country came to roads to protest. Why? because it happened to someone like them, who goes to college, was with her boyfriend, sat in a bus thinking 4-5 people in bus were passengers who all turned out to be a gang of rapists. This case made youngsters think that it could have been any of them. It wasn’t a girl alone. there was her boyfriend who was also attacked and beaten badly. So all young men and women related to the incident. Their protests did a lot of good including people talking/discussing openly about the issue. The whole country level debate on how blaming the victim is not the solution. People saw a bare naked truth of their own community and so called culture they are proud of. Now if everyone started criticizing these youngsters that why dont you come out to street when a woman gets brutally raped and killed in rural India. There is truth in what they are saying but they also need to appreciate that for whatever reasons the youngsters are at raising the serious issue and society is paying attention and some good will come out of all this. Its not that these youngsters dont care about rural women getting raped its just that they relate more and were shaken more when it happened to one of them.

  8. Sots, i do understand how you feel as you relate more and feel more pain when Muslims are victim. Of course there are bigots everywhere including in in western countries but don’t you think among Muslim community a much bigger proportion silently supports crimes against humanity (not just violent terrorism but honor killings, lack of freedom of speech and much more). I know many Indian Muslims openly justifying terrorist attacks. Forget about Muslims when i was in India and watched twin towers falling, I am ashamed to say my first thought was oh well someone taught a lesson to big bully America! Thankfully i dont think same now.
    I do not see Muslims speaking up for western women’s rights to wear what they want when they visit Muslim countries but they do get offended when France bans Niqab. Many hide behind the cultural sensitivity and how men in Muslim counties are not used seeing women in western clothes. Guess what not many people in Western countries are used to see people covering their faces in public. And now with all the Islamic terrorist incidents happening i dont blame if a westerners aren’t comfortable or rather panic seeing someone dressed in a big robe and face mask. How do you tell if its an ordinary Muslim woman minding her own business or a terrorist woman/man conveniently hiding behind the robe and niqab. I dont see Muslims fighting for people’s rights to openly practice or leave any religion they want. I rather regularly saw Muslim students at my university setting up a booth with a big slogan “Islam: fastest growing religion”. Do you think these university students are unaware of all those who are just afraid to say they are not Muslims anymore.

  9. Unchained, i understand you too and your experience seeing very closely what was happening in Kashmir. I have seen same in Punjab. I too was angry and very biased looking at everything through a lens showing me my Sikh community have been oppressed, been victims of injustice and so on. It is true Sikhs have been oppressed in past and during that separatist movement but violence and creating another failed state based on religion doesn’t solve anything. Terrorism leads to more violence, police brutality, killing of innocents. I dont justify killings by state and dont justify killings by separatists. I was in school when Sikh separatists gained so much influence in Punjab that schools were forced to change our school uniforms from skirts&shirts to baggy pants, long tunics and long scarfs of a specific color. Separatists were using fear for public to behave in a certain way which is wrong. What would those elements have done if they succeeded in creating a separate state? I would rather be a part of secular India which clearly is not perfect but there is a constitution, law and order not jungle rule or rule of religion where a bunch of men will use their favorite interpretation of religion and force it on public. Now were some elements in the intelligence agencies and politicians of India and Pakistan playing a role in this conflict. Ofcourse but its Sikh community’s responsibility to not fall prey to them and keep their youngsters from path of violence. Thankfully that period ended but with a lot of loss. Same separatist elements hiding in western counties misuse “freedom of speech” in these countries and still openly support the Sikh separatists. I saw that recently when visiting Canada but i also saw that majority of Sikh community wisely ignores them and focus on their own good work of community service and cultural celebrations.

  10. The people i mentioned were openly supporting violent Sikh separatists and raising slogans on still wanting a separate Sikh state in India. These people were using images of people who were victims of police brutality in Punjab. A naive person might buy their propaganda but i was proud to see they were like a drop in an ocean and very clearly ignored by wider community. They were only making fools of themselves in this one booth while crowds ignoring them and enjoying hundreds of other booths, free food and festivities.
    I think best response to such elemens is to ignore them unless they break any law and put a lot of effort in educating youth about their real agenda and how much blood of innocent youth they have on their hands. Not punishing but providing conselling to youth who for some reason still falls prey to them.
    These type
    of elememts have their own non profit religious organizations in west. They misuse the freedom in west. This is why i know all too well what goes on in some Masjids or non-profit Muslim organizations in West. Maybe not openly during public sessions but behind closer doors among loyal circles within their organization. I know it because it happens in our community and some genuinely believe its for the sake of justice and fighting opression. They misuse the scripture where it says when all means fail its just to use sword. Sitting in a democratic country there are always other means that you can choose to fight against injustice. Some wise people however have done exactly same. Used freedom of speech to raise awareness about atrocities on Sikhs in India. They even successfully took brutal police officers to courts in India. Are they able to bring justice to all victims. No but they have done a lot of healing as just being heard at an international level is great relief for victims. Also anything you do peacefully is much better than any violent response that only leads to further loss and misguides the next generation.

  11. Emet

    If you read the comments no one here was really that concerned with who did what. The point is isreal are run by evil sadistic psychopaths and are suppoted by evil sadistic psychopaths. We dont condone the slaugher, imprisonment and torture of innocent people. Clearly you do. Which makes you one of the evil sadistic psychopaths.
    As for the link to the blog post. I will qoute one of the women here, unchained “HORSESHIT”

  12. I’ve been looking at the GOP convention, and the press conference held last night by Erdogan, and the press conference with our new Foreign Secretary Boris Johnson (yes, I’m all alone and feeling sorry for myself) and I’m thinking the whole world seems to be filled with evil politicians, sadists and psychopaths – and nincompoops. I guess I should prefer nincompoops, and I do, but still I can’t help but feel we should be able to do better.

  13. I’m pretty sure Trump’s going to get elected. The horror of that is mitigated by the fact that I feel the same horror at the prospect of Hillary Clinton in the Oval Office.

    Well, I’m no history buff, but we know that so many “empires” throughout all these millenia of recorded history had their day in the sun and then for one reason or another fell. The Roman Empire, the Ottoman Empire, Mongolia, British, etc etc etc….I suspected for awhile now that it’s our turn to crash and burn. I wonder who’s going to take over, if there’s enough of anyone left to take over. After all, there are nukes lying about this time around, and having one of two extremely unstable people with access to the codes makes me very, very nervous.

    I’m just going to hunker down over here, write my stories, and live as best as I can.

  14. Emet, I clicked your link, read the headline, and knew what I was in for. But I read on anyway. But as soon as I saw “Bible” and “facts” in the same sentence, I closed out again. Not, however, before I spotted a million typos and grammatical errors to go along with lots of zionista talking points and erroneous, if not outright false, propaganda. Fail.

  15. Do you really think Trump will be elected?

    Oh dear.

    The man gives me nightmares. And I can’t imagine what kind of world we’d live in with him as POTUS. I read today that he’s said he wouldn’t aid his NATO allies and would more or less hand the Baltic states over to Putin 😦 It really scares me.

    What are your main arguments against Clinton? (I hope you don’t mind my asking)

  16. Unchained,

    “I’m pretty sure Trump’s going to get elected. The horror of that is mitigated by the fact that I feel the same horror at the prospect of Hillary Clinton in the Oval Office.”

    I share your sentiment, even though I am not American. A great country like USA going through this thorough mess in terms of presidential candidates is not good news. And on top since USA possesses weapons, an unstable person having access to them isn’t good news either.

    There are popular figures I see on fb predicting Hillary Clinton as the President, with their own facts and figures. I haven’t investigated much on American politics, so I am not sure.

    Donald Trump has been made too much of a joke about, with his lies, misogyny, bigotry, and inappropriate behavior in front of people. On top the news on Melania Trump plagiarizing large portions for her recent speech from Michelle Obama’s speech in 2008 has probably raised more alarm in the people.

    I don’t know how people can keep voting for Trump, unless they are people fed up of political correctness, Islamic extremism problem which is not addressed properly by the USA politicians, or by immigrants.

  17. Sots:
    ///If you read the comments no one here was really that concerned with who did what. The point is isreal are run by evil sadistic psychopaths and are suppoted by evil sadistic psychopaths. We dont condone the slaugher, imprisonment and torture of innocent people. Clearly you do. Which makes you one of the evil sadistic psychopaths////

    Sots, considering your lack of concern about “who did what”, it’s interesting how definite you are in your opinions on the subject.

    Unchained:
    ////Emet, I clicked your link, read the headline, and knew what I was in for. But I read on anyway. But as soon as I saw “Bible” and “facts” in the same sentence, I closed out again. Not, however, before I spotted a million typos and grammatical errors to go along with lots of zionista talking points and erroneous, if not outright false, propaganda. Fail.///

    Unchained, I applaud your punctilious attention to typography. I agree that those events are documented with more grammatical and academic rigor elsewhere.
    Since you bring up propaganda, the narrative of the Arab Israel conflict propounded in much of the mainstream media, especially in Europe, has been relentlessly distorted through the lens of Arab revisionist historiography. (a notion Fiona made passing reference to at some point)

    http://fathomjournal.org/the-ideological-roots-of-media-bias-against-israel/

    Sots and Unchained – have either of you ever visited Israel or even met an Israeli?

    We’d be happy to host you! We welcome visitors of all religions, races, beliefs, gender and sexual orientation. In Israel everyone can dress, worship and express opinions freely. Our free and highly critical press regularly level criticisms at the government, sometimes in terms as abusive as Sots, as do several Arab members of our Parliament (though they tend to lack Sots’ honesty in stating that their criticisms have no basis in “who did what”.)

    There are definitely some rotten apples amongst our politicians (a former prime minister and a former president are currently in jail, for fraud and for sexual assault respectively). The fact that our legal system put them there speaks volumes about our healthy democracy. Corrupt politicians tend to have a habit of evading the punishments that regular citizens would get in many countries (eg Richard Nixon).

    Successive Israeli governments have consistently sought peace with our neighbours. We’ve even managed to achieve it with Egypt and Jordan, an outcome that could never have been predicted when they repeatedly attacked us with the goal of throwing every Jew in the sea during the first decades of Israel’s existence. Successive Israeli governments have repeatedly offered, and made, wide ranging concessions, some of which put our own country in grave danger, in attempts to achieve peace with the Palestinians. But it’s really hard to make peace with people whose overt, unchanging and repeatedly stated goal is to kill you. It’s a bit like trying to persuade your polygynous husband that really monogamy would be so much better for both of you.

    How many Muslim run societies would welcome me, a Jewish Israeli? How many Muslim regimes would respect my right to dress, worship, travel, speak and have sexual relations however I choose? How about my gay friends?

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