I found your blog couple of weeks ago and Ive been readin through EVERY post! OMG sister youve been through so much s***t and you took it standin up Im so impressed girl!
Heres my situation. Im married to a man who is doin time. Weve been down this road before cause of some company hes been keepin and it aint no good for him. Hes promised to change now and I believe him cause hes been workin on his deen now on the inside and is a new man i think. Hes cut off the brothers brought him down too mashallah. But he’ll be gone for another six years and I have kids to care for and Im working 2 jobs and life is hard. I love my husband and he loves me. I know the kids and me is what hes living for now and Im not taking that away from him no way.
Theres this brother whos been good to us hes helpe me couple times to keep my boys straight and a few things about the house and such. Hes a good man and Im feeling things and sos he. And I came here looking for anybody who knows if theres anyway a woman can marry a man even if shes married already like if her husband is away for years and I found your blog. I feel like I must have been given this chance to find a way now! And Ive been talking to the brother and hes also been readin and weve said that it feels ok. My husband and me had a nikka only so me and the brother thought we would get married at the registers. I asked at the masjid and they said no way would they marry us cause polygamy is forbidden for sisters and I aksed them to show me where that says and i told them im willin to give myself to the brother and that makes it legal and they just looked stupid and said thats not how we should read it but I said for sure thats what it says.
So now Im wondering how I should tell my husband. How can I make him accept it and see its permissible and Im not leavin or betrayin him but tryin to save our marriage? And is there anybody else out there doin the same thing? I mean I know a lot of sisters livin with other men while hubz in jail but no official like…. It would mean a lot to me if any other sister is doin it the right way and gettin married and can tell me about it. Thanks yall. //Cessondra