I stumbled across a blogpost I found very interesting. It’s called Having loved and lost in Oman – divorce.
I think it’s a very good read for women thinking about marrying an Omani man, or any muslim man for that matter. But it also makes me think. If this is what you should know if you as a Western woman intend to marry an Omani man – what should an Omani man know before he marries an English woman?
First of all, the author of the article I’m discussing says women must understand it’s a muslim man’s right to marry up to four wives. Well, in Europe if you do, you’re a bigamist and you’ll go to jail. And you can kiss any chance of seeing your children goodbye. This is something an Omani man must realize before he marries a European woman.
If you’re a muslim bigamist and your wife divorces you, there is no way you’ll get custody of the children. And I believe this is fair. And if you take the children from the mother, you’re a cursed kidnapper and if you ever show up in the civilized world you’ll grow old in jail. And that is fair.
A muslim man must understand that if he uses his islamic “right” to admonish, strike, his wife, he will go to jail. And loose the right to see his children.
An Omani man must understand that if he marries and has children with an English woman and then divorces her, she gets to keep the children and he must keep paying maintenance and child support until the children are 18 (or 20 if they’re at school). And he must keep paying even if the woman marries somebody else. As is only fair. And if an English woman divorces her Omani husband and keeps the children, she will also get the house. No matter if the husband paid for it. And this is only fair. Especially if he’s a criminal who strikes his wife or his children, or is a bigamist.
So just as western women should not complain about the islamic laws in Oman if they choose to marry there, an Omani (or any muslim) man has no right to complain about the laws here, if he chooses to marry e.g. in the UK.
We should however make sure that no muslim man of foreign origin who has children with a UK citizen is allowed through customs without written consent from his wife, or ex-wife if she is the mother of his children 🙂
I wonder if the Omani princess would agree?
And all the Omani princes?