Imams may say it is understandable that women are selfish, they are insufficient in reason and religion after all, so they must be forgiven for their jealousy and selfishness.
(As if they would be able to cope with having to share their wives!?)
Many muslim women support this view. They say polygyny is a test from Allah, it gives women the opportunity to fight their nafs, jealousies and selfishness.
These women tell the wives who do not want to share their husbands that they are disobedient and disrespecting both their husbands and Allah, that they are sinning.
Islamic fanatics, like the ones over at Polygamy411, keep saying that polygyny is there to make women less selfish by forcing them to share their husbands, and to make men less selfish by forcing them to care for more than one wife. One of the worst gender-racists there is a teacher who’s obviously allowed to teach gender racism and islamism to young women. Heinous!
I wonder, if you are basically selfish, wouldn’t it be better never to get married at all?
To me, marriage is about giving. It’s about having children, and once you have children your life doesn’t belong to you – they are your foremost responsibility. If you can’t put their interests before your own, if you can’t sacrifice your own needs and desires to care for their needs – you should not be married at all. If you can not compromise, be happy because you make your spouse happy – then you should not marry at all. Is it really objecting to polygamy that is selfish? Or is the worst kind of selfishness maybe choosing polygamy at the expense of your wife, at the expense of your children????
The sad thing is, warped women like this would never be able to see that all people must have the same rights. They would never be able to say that the rule “never do to another what you would not have them do unto you” applies to muslim men too. They would never be able to see that selfishness, jealousy and trying to lord it over your spouse are ugly qualities in men too.
Islamists like these are just as sick, just as warped, just as disgustingly discriminating as ever any member of the KKK. One group of people have rights over another group of people – same s**t.
(Does it scare you too that some of these people obviously get to teach?? 😦 )