When muslims claim polygyny is allowed they quote An Nisa:
marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess.
Some islamic extremists even use this quote to claim that polygyny is the recommendation, the default situation, since two is the first number mentioned and many claim that the quran must be read literally.
This is where I ask myself: Can’t muslims in favour of polygyny read?
I find book after book, website after website, where muslims accept that allah has permitted polygyny. Muslim women are fighting their hatred of polygyny, trying to find comfort in the fact that maybe natural dislike for something isn’t a sin if you can just accept at the same time that this something that you dislike is permissible, allah has allowed it. Like polygyny.
Thing is, he hasn’t. If you believe the quran is a text to be obeyed, then you must read the whole text. It says:
To orphans restore their property (when they reach their age), nor substitute (your) worthless things for (their) good ones; and devour not their substance (by mixing it up) with your own. For this is indeed a great sin.
If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess. That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.
So the permission to marry more than one wife is only given to people who are responsible for the welfare of orphans, and are having acute and real fears that they won’t be able to deal justly with the orphans in their care. This is clearly stated in the quran. If you are a man and you are not the sole warden of orphans, you are not permitted polygyny in this verse (nor anywhere else in the quran). If you are the sole caretaker of orphans you are still not permitted to become polygynous, unless you are suffering from acute and very real and well founded fear that you might be abusing the rights of the orphans in your care. Then, and only then, does this verse give you permission to marry more than one wife. And if this be the case, you can still only marry plural wives if you harbour no fear whatsoever that you might some time, any time during the rest of your life, deal unjustly with any of your wives. If you have any such fear, you can only marry one.
So, all you muslim men out there who claim that you have a right to marry up to four wives. Can you read?
Are you all sole wardens of orphans? (Not a single orphan mind you, it says orphans – plural) And do you have well founded fears that you won’t be able to keep from abusing them? And are you completely without fear that you might ever, in any way, be unjust towards a wife if you were to marry more than one??
Because if you are a muslim and you claim that men have a right to marry four wives without being the wardens of orphans and without having a well founded fear of abusing these orphans in their care, then you obviously can’t read. Or you’re a misogynist hypocrite.