Yesterday when I came home from work I met Graham who was bringing home some groceries. It was my first husband’s day, so I hadn’t been planning on seeing Graham.
You know, earlier, when Graham had his flat in Docklands and my first husband spent his days with #2 in St Albans, I didn’t meet the other spouse on our off days. It was really a kind of alternating monogamy, if you understand what I mean.
But now, when we live next door, it’s a different story. We can see the windows of the other building and see each other move around inside, we share the garden and sometimes we run in to each other on our ways in and out. The reality of polygamy has come much closer.
I was very happy to see Graham because I felt I had missed him during the two earlier days. So I helped him with the groceries, we chatted and laughed, and we ended up making love. It was five o clock or there about so my husband’s time hadn’t started yet. But I still feel guilty. We have this agreement that we are not to have sex with one spouse on the other spouse’s day. It was decided on when I became polygamous, on my husband’s request. I had asked the same of him when he “married” #2, but then he refused. He said it was completely up to him to decide and I had no right to interfere in #2:s sex life. That tune changed when I married Graham.
Anyway, according to islam the polygamous spouse has a right to have sex with all the consorts every day, but if you do it during the night you have to make up the time to the spouse whose night it is. So I have every right to make love to Graham, even if the night belongs to my first husband. And as things are, with us living so close, seeing each other even when we haven’t planned to, I am bound to want to have sex with the “off spouse” on occasion.
Question now is if I should talk to my first husband about this before I leave for Graham this evening. I didn’t yesterday because I didn’t want to spoil the lovely evening we had planned. Should I tell him about what happened yesterday and say it’s bound to happen again ( and also my wanting to be with my first husband on Graham’s day) or should I broach the subject as a hypothetical situation and say I claim my right to be with both my spouses any day?
I am polygamous. I don’t want to feel guilty about having sex with my husbands, and I don’t want to feel like I need to hide what I am doing like if I was having an affair. No, I need to sort this out with my first husband.
I’ll take some coffee up and have it out with him.