There are loads of islamic websites offering “advice” to people who find themselves in difficult situations. Many of the people who turn to these forums to vent are uneducated, stressed out and vulnerable.
The advice they get is often manipulative and aggressive. “Do this or you’ll end up in hell” or “This quote from the quran or a hadith proves that you must act thus”. There is little or no consideration for the individual, the only thing that seems to matter in these islamic forums is indoctrination and fanaticism.
Whether a piece of advice is moral or not, harmful or not, is of no importance. The only thing that matters is if I can find some islamic rule to support it. And of course, the interpretation is based on patriarchal tradition and hegemony. Men have rights – women must submit.
You can see an example above. A young christian woman has fallen in love with an arabic man who has a wife and small children. He’s in love with her too and they have obviously been sneaking around behind his wife’s back for five years. Is there general outrage over the zina committed here? Is there moral indignation over this man who is cheating on his wife, this woman who is having an affair with a married man? NO! This is a muslim forum – they are not concerned with what is right or what is revolting – they are only concerned with what is islamic. And this man wants to marry his mistress – so it’s OK!
As you can see, they are advised that marrying is good, the home wrecking woman doesn’t need to concern herself with the fact that the lives of the first wife and the children will be destroyed – he has a right to marry and he doesn’t need to ask or tell his wife!!!!!!!
Islam as practised by fanatics you see, has nothing to do with decency or morals or common humanity. It is only about rules. Wreck a family? YES – it is permissible! Fuck another woman while my wife is pregnant? YES – marry her behind your wife’s back and it’s permissible!
It is nauseating the way people manage to forget ordinary human decency, morals and mercy, when religion enters the game.
Any sane person with ordinary, basic human decency and morals, would tell this young woman to stay away from another woman’s husband, be loyal to the first wife and her children, and hope that in the future, other women will show her the same decency.