Who becomes a second wife?
Many of us wonder, who are these women who are willing to become a man’s second choice, who are willing to always be nr 2?
There are a lot of opinions out there about second wives, I can tell you!
First of all, of course there are a lot of women who become second wives in a way that I can respect. If the first wife is the one who wants the husband to marry again for example, and actually, this does happen. Sometimes a first wife might want children, and the husband wants them too, but she can’t have any. If together they choose to look for a second wife who is willing to cooperate to build a family then, fine. A woman willing to become second wife under these circumstances and of her own free choice is to be respected.
If a man becomes polygamous, he declares to the world that he is pro polygamy and is embracing polygamy. Should the wife then decide to become polygamous too, there is of course no harm in becoming the second spouse to this wife, since her husband has already proven himself to be in favour of polygamy, thereby granting his wife automatic rights to take a second spouse too. This too naturally deserves respect.
But there are other kinds of second wives too – despicable kinds.
First of all, I despise all women who agree to become a second wife against the expressed wishes of the first wife. These women are quislings, utterly despicable and should be considered lepers by society.
Even worse are the women who agree to marry a married man, even though he is honest with not having even told the first wife because he knows she will be so devastated and hurt that he doesn’t dare tell her. These women are vomit. They are cursed vermin.
Another kind of second wife, not as bad but still despicable, is the one who is all sweet and amicable before the wedding, saying how she respects the first wife and will do her best to make polygamy endurable, but as soon as she is married will start to do her best to get rid of the first wife by making her life miserable – backbiting, lying, manipulating and playing power-games.
Many second wives seem to think their husbands love them more, that the husbands have chosen them before the first wife, that they are the favorites. Often it seems that second wives delude themselves and believe that sooner or later, the husband will give his first wife up if they just suck up to him enough. Don’t they realize that if their husbands had wanted to leave their first wives, it would have been so much easier to do that in the first place? Statistics actually show that it is very rare that a polygamous husband divorces his first wife, it’s much more common he lets # 2 go when she becomes disillusioned by his not leaving #1 and starts acting a bitch….
Most people are, understandably, prejudiced against second wives. One thing I think is significant is that many second wives choose to have a clause in their marriage-contracts giving them the right to divorce should hub choose to take a third wife….. How come, girls? Aren’t you loving for your sisters what you love for yourselves?