Polygamy is the hardest thing ever and I am figuring out in order for Polygamy to really be successful it takes a strong man who is a leader and who can keep control even in the times of crises when one or more wives is falling apart emotionally (Source: Polygamy 411)
Polygamy is hard. Sharing means giving up on things, going without. It also means that a person you don’t love, your spouse’s significant other, will have power over your life, knowledge of private things, influence over the person you love. You will have her acari in your bed, in your spouse’s mouth when you kiss. Your children will be subject to influence from this person. Is it at all doable? Yes. If it is done voluntarily, with total respect for everybody’s equal rights and status. Most importantly – polygamy must be based on the principle that by becoming polygamous you admit that your spouse has absolute right to be polygamous too.
Muslims don’t see it that way. To them, polygamy doesn’t exist, only polygyny. Polygyny is a god given right to man only. Men can have 4 wives, their wives must be devoutly obedient, and a man doesn’t have to ask his wife’s permission to marry a second, actually he doesn’t even have to tell her that he has remarried. To muslims, this is not a question of morals, it’s simply a result of men being superior to women and hence being granted rights over women by god. That it is inherently unethical and amoral doesn’t matter, since muslim men have been given the right to act thus by god.
To an ordinary, sane person with sound morals, the simple solution would be never to do to your wife (or husband) what you would not have her do to you. To an ordinary, sane person with sound morals, the simple solution would be as a parent to assume the responsibility as a parent and appreciate the children’s rights before you even start considering your own.
According to one of the mentally, socially and sexually warped women at Polyagmy 411 however, what it takes to live polygamy is a strong male leader who can enforce his will on the family no matter how sick and depressed they are. A man’s right to fuck and empregnate other women, to make more babies to be abandoned and abused, is more important than the welfare of his children, the survival of his wife and family. That’s religion for you, that is islam. When a man forces his wife, or wives, into abominable forced polygyny where their human rights don’t exist, where they have to accept being contaminated with STD:s, herpes, syphilis and AIDS from their husbands and fathers who are off legally and by divine right fucking teenagers and what not – what do you think it takes to make this work?
A brutal awakening that makes the man understand he is behaving worse than an amoral baboon, ruled solely by his penis and his conviction that this red little peace of meat makes him a superior being? Naah! What it takes is for the women to pray all day all night, and for the man to be “a strong man who is a leader and who can keep control even in the times of crises when one or more wives is falling apart emotionally”
The wives are expected to fall apart, he has a right to make them fall apart, he just has to be strong and make them bow to their fate, return to absolute obedience, and all will be well. This is Imam in Wonderland for you, Mordor in the UK, Islam today.