So, we met up for lunch, my husband’s #2 and I. I was curious and a bit apprehensive. We have never had any contact, and we have never before met alone, without my husband.
We met at a Persian restaurant and yes, the food was lovely.. 🙂
First she said she wanted to apologize for last time, when she came to my house only to scream about being unjustly treated because she hasn’t been given part of my inheritence… 😦 I said fine, let’s forgive and forget, I apologized for the nasty things I said to her on that occasion too.. All good.
Then she started talking a bit about how sad she is to be parted from my husband, how afraid she is of what might be awaiting her in Oman. And then she said what she really came to say..
She wanted me to promise not to use the situation, her being forced to move to Oman, to make my husband leave her, divorce her. She wanted me to promise not to take her husband from her.
Ok, I can understand where she’s coming from, I can understand her fear. But:
*She has no right to ask me anything if the kind. She took half my husband from me, even though she knew I hadn’t been asked, or told. I owe her nothing.
*I am not my husband’s keeper. He does what he wants.
*I have nothing to gain from giving her such a promise. She has nothing to offer me in return. She has given me nothing but pain.
HOW DARE SHE!!! 😦
So I told her that I had offered to give my husband extra days with her now, before she leaves but he said no. That made her very upset! Then I told her that I had been thinking about leting her have all his vacations, since I will be getting all the other time, but that her manipulative way of trying to guilt me into a promise today has made me change my mind. I won’t give up a single day of my time, no matter how much time she must give up.
I was so angry when I left her. The nerve! But soon she will be gone… 😀