Question: I am a young muslimah and my husband is telling me he wants a second wife. I have showed him how much hurt I am from this. He asks me why it is so bad and he can’t understand why I am so sad.
I don’t want to forbid something that Allah has allowed, but I hope there is some way I can make my husband feel that I am more important than having a second wife. Can you help me? How do I open my soul to my husband so he understands my true feelings and understand what it would be to me if he makes polygamy? How can I reach my husband and make him choose me, and not become Polygamous? Maybe you can help.
La hawla wala quwata illa billah.
Answer: I am sorry, but I don’t really know how I can help you. I am not muslim, and I believe that in order to get through to a husband in such a situation as yours, you need to be able to reach him via his religion. Maybe there are some hadiths or verses in the Quran that could show him that he would be rewarded if he listened to you and respected your wishes? I don’t know. But I think it’s a good sign that he has talked about it with you BEFORE marrying again. Maybe that means there might be some way of getting through to him? I put your question out here and hope there might be someone out there who could help you, or give you an answer from an islamic point of view. I am very sorry I couldn’t be of more help. If there is anything else you would like to talk about, feel free to post again anytime! I’ll be thinking about you.