When my husband told me he had married again I didn’t really know anything about polygamy, or islamic rules about polygamy. So I scanned the internet for facts. One of the things I realized was that having children is a major part of islamic marriage, and that having children is considered a spousal right.
So I couldn’t help wondering what my “co-wife” thought of the fact that my husband can’t have any more children.
I snooped and prodded, and came to believe that my husband simply hadn’t told her about being sterilized. :(
That horrible evening when he brought her along to my house, and she started screaming about my house being so much grander than hers, I lashed out at her and called her worthless and said that she can’t even provide my husband with children. Of course, I was out to hurt her, but I also wanted to force my husband to come clean.
He said nothing. Nothing at all.
Afterwards, I asked him straight out, and he admitted to not having told #2 he can’t have any more children. I can tell you, I really let him have it..!
Anyway, for weeks now I have noticed something going on between them, and my husband has been nervous and distraught. I’ve been on edge too, wondering what’s been going on.
So today, when he comes home to me after having been with her, he tells me he’s thinking about looking into the possibility of surgery, to be able to have a child with #2.
He says she is totally a wreck over not having become pregnant. My husband tells me he STILL hasn’t told her he’s been sterilized, he’s just pretending it’s probably her fault.
I told my husband he is really being a pig. This is just too much, you don’t do this to anybody. He said he’s feeling awful about it, but he simply can’t tell her the truth now. He’s afraid she’d leave him. He says she’s nagging about being allowed to go to an ob to look if anything is wrong with her, but he is using his islamic prerogative and forbidding her to do this. He has forbidden her to do anything about it, claiming modesty-reasons. Being muslim, she has to obey her husband. A muslim wife, of course, is in bondage to her husband and my “co-wife” doesn’t even leave her flat without my husband’s permission. Convenient, isn’t it? So, he is making her believe it’s her fault. I was so angry with him when he told me this, but he says that islamically it’s his right since he is lying to her to keep the peace between husband and wife and this is allowed in islam.
So there you go.
Anyway, now he told me he’s thinking about going to the doctor to ask if the sterilization could be reversed.
I told him, if he does, I’ll divorce his a**, and I’ll take him for everything he’s got and I’ll present proof of his polygamy to his boss, his family and the police and he’ll never see his son or his daughter again because they’ll both side with me.
He started to cry. He said he didn’t believe I could be so cruel and deny his #2 the possibility to become a mother.
Can you believe it?? As if it’s ME denying her the possibility… :(
I just told him to go f**k himself. He stormed out and has been gone for an hour…
Well, this is the muslim husband in a nutshell. Behaving like an abusive, selfish, lying pig, all the while saying it’s his islamic right to do so….. And it’s so convenient, there’s always one rule or another in islam that allows husbands to do anything they want to hurt, enslave and torment their women.