Question: Would you make your husband divorce #2 if you could?
Answer: Well, first of all I don’t really agree with the term “divorce” since in my mind they aren’t really married. He is married to me, I’m the only one with a valid marriage license, and we live in a country where bigamy is criminal. The fact that they had some kind of hoax wedding, a voodoo kinda ceremony called a “nikah” does not mean that they are married. No way. No more than Barbie is really married to Ken, Buzz Lightyear and Winnie the Pooh after my niece has said abracadabra over them and sprinkled them with lemon juice and declared them all to be married. 🙂
Apart from that, would I want him to leave her? Well, in a way I do. You see, I hate her for what she did to my family. She knew when she “married” my husband that they did it behind his first wife’s back, she did that willingly which makes her a liar, a cheat, a homebreaker and a whore. She also knew that we had children, and that they knew nothing about their fathers choice to become polygamous. This didn’t stop her. Her need for sex and money was more important than my children’s right to their father. It’s her fault my son is saying his father killed himself. So, in a way she is a murderer. She knew that I am not muslim, so she knew I would never accept any islamist excuses for her whoring, stealing and cheating. So – I hate her. I would love to be able to pay her back. To cause her any pain to make up for the pain she has caused me and my children. I hope she goes to hell. Just for her sake, I hope there is a hell.
But at the same time, I have paid such a high price, my husband has paid such a high price, for polygamy – wouldn’t it be even worse if it was all for nothing?
And by now, there is no way going back. So where would we end up?
So, really, I don’t know.
But I can say this: muslim women have no business “marrying” men who are already married to women who aren’t muslim. If you share a husband with a muslim woman who is ok with it – fine. But NEVER NEVER NEVER invade the marriage of a non-muslim woman. May you be cursed if you do.