My main battle has been with trying to understand WHY my husband chose to stray outside our marriage to begin with. His explanation, that I’ve already posted about, simply didn’t make me understand anything.
My husband introduced me to his new “wife” by having us meet a few times at cafés, and meeting her only made me more baffled. She was 18, or so I was told, when she hooked up with my husband, he then was 45. I didn’t know at first what she looks like since she wears niqab but I suppose youth always holds it’s special beauty. She didn’t speak unless spoken to and she didn’t speak English besides a couple of greeting phrases. When we’ve met my husband has been there also, so it’s been somewhat strained. I’ve asked her a couple of things about the weather and the like and he has translated her answers – they have been of the “fine, thank you”-kind. She has no education. I simply don’t get what my husband sees in her. He says he enjoys being looked up to, that she is dependant on him. Ok, fine I can see that that might be nice. But he also says, and has always shown, that what he loves about me is my intelligence, erudition and independence. Well, I simply don’t know.
My partner is an engineer, and when we’re together we read, talk about books, politics, we go to museums and lectures. What could my husband be doing with his so called second wife? It’s beyond me